1 Corinthians 7:1-16

1 Corinthians 7:1-16
Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” ² But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 

The solution for sexual immorality is sexual intimacy withing the context of monogamous marriage. 

³ The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.

If one spouse is in "the mood" the other spouse needs to get in the mood.  Now remember to balance this with the fact that you are to love your spouse.  This is not an order for "sex on demand".

  ⁴ The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. ⁵ Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

 Each partner meets the needs of the other.  Each understanding that their body was a gift given to their spouse at marriage.  So when any of you go to porn sites or books or movies and find sexual self gratification, you are stealing from you spouse.  And I'm not just talking to the men here.  Women are just as guilty.

  ⁶ I say this as a concession, not as a command. ⁷ I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.

Paul had the gift of singleness.  He was content to be alone and would encourage others to be so if that was there gift.  (Makes me wonder if parental pressure for marriage and grandchildren was as great in Paul's day as it is today.)  
 
⁸ Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. ⁹ But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

I do not have the gift of singleness.  I do not want to be alone.  In God's time, in God's will, I hope to one day remarry.  Till then I rely on Him.

¹⁰ To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. ¹¹ But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

If you are in a violent situation, get out and get help.  However your goal is reconciliation not to start over with someone new. 

¹² To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. ¹³ And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. ¹⁴ For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
¹⁵ But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. ¹⁶ How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Believers should not marry unbelievers.  Should you come to Christ after marriage and your spouse has no problems and wishes to stay then you stay with them.  Do not divorce.  If they cannot live with you because of your faith, let them go.  Your example and faith may one day lead them to Christ.

God Bless.